Mostly because my aunt and uncle inherited from their own. Giving birth is a natural and beautiful process, but it can also be a stressful and overwhelming experience. I'm just going to be direct and quick. I was only 26 when this initially happened. He didnt pay all the child support he was supposed to and money was always tight, even though he lived well bc his girlfriend (eventually his wife) was rich. Your sister wants you to blow away your entire future because she blew away her options for a secure future. My (47m) grandma recently passed away. In most countries, grandparents have no (zero) obligation to provide ANYTHING in their Will for a grandchild. Don't let them manipulate you or guilt you in any way. Lee is wealthy and my mom never had to work and I was given everything growing up. Then those girls wanted to go to college and asked their mom about the inheritance money. Do not play with your future for the sake of helping your brother, he spent his fair share of the money on bad decisions, thats on him. My mum and me are devastated. She talked to an attorney, & that was how she decided on the trust. "ESH" - Mom died recently, leaving behind my half-brother, my niece, and me. Tanya and I grew up well off, never had to pay for our education. Our parents were very clear in their will that our inheritance and all property are split evenly between the two of us. Me and my sister got everything 5050. My mother explained that I'd been relying on that money, also he had assured memum the funds were there only weeks earlier. By sharing your inheritance with these two, you are basically enabling their strong sense of entitlement. The end. My grandparents on my mothers side both passed a few years ago. Both of them have debt and this money would have helped them. And although my husband and I have struggled financially for over 20 years, and even had to move in with my mom temporarily a few years ago, I always tell her May you live long enough to spend it all. Create a will stating that should you pass and your husband is still alive, the. My dad and his family owns a lot of land in his country and in the country we currently live in so therefore he rents it to his and my moms family and a few trusted friends. The rest of my family got some inheritance also, but mine is considerably larger than anyone elses. You two (mom and dad) can go, but we&39;re not. My (25f) dad passed when I was very young and my mom married my stepdad Lee when I was 5. In the meantime, start preparing Only problem is, once you have the inheritance they are likely to refuse to sign over custody of your brother once they realise you wont give it up. I feel horrible now. Donating to charity is a lovely idea. 6M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. Common birthday gifts for moms include beauty products, jewelry and memorabilia. She placed two of them for sale, but they never sold since the real state market is extremely expensive here. I am the second youngest of four siblings and my older brother and sister have been incredibly greedy and cruel throughout the whole ordeal, constantly trying to grab more and more money and find loopholes to take more money. AITA I did not gave my sister my son's inheritance from my father. If you didnt feel comfortable with it then you did not have to give him a hug. So, no, shes not cutting my uncle out of the will, but neither is she changing it; she must really think that I will feel pity for my uncle and will cede my rights in his favour. She and OP received a 5050 split of OPs fathers inheritance. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place. Everyone around your sister is afraid of her turning her wrath onto them, so they are trying to get you in line to make her happy. Hes already living off what we get monthly from our. The sum of money was much larger than I expected, totaling around 6 million. I'm still very much grieving both of them. The will could have been written to divide the money evenly amongst the grandchildren. By Samantha Berlin On 92022 at 1218 PM EDT. The first being that I dont get along with my grandmother. I wasn't allowed to keep any pictures in my room and I would catch. My mom didn't leave us cash, she left us properties (4 in total). My uncle and my mom have been arguing over this, and I feel terrible. bibbiddybobbidyboo 3 yr. Considering how bad she's been with money, she'd probably waste it on something. When he came out, they practically shunned him but still kept inviting him to the family events so their image to the neighbors would stay intact. In her will she set aside 50,000 each for my sister Tanya (40f) and myself. I(20f) didn't know either of my grandmothers, my. On top of that, states an. Your father designated his beneficiaries because that is who he wanted to have those benefits when he died. Well, my mom died not too long ago, and I met with the attorneyexecutor of her will. In many US states, even money inherited during a marriage is unlikely to be considered to be marital assets (and part of the assets split by divorce) as long as it was never commingled with marital assets. Because of this I became very close with my grandparents instead of my own parents. They have no entitlement to the money or to even have knowledge of it. You and your brother are your father's heirs. Especially my great uncle who wanted nothing to do with my parents, not just him , all of my aunts uncles cousins and grandparents severed ties with my parents because of this. If your father, step mom etc are guilting you this way, that is disgusting. Hes being greedy, like everybody who wants something for nothing. She was only 19 then, now 36. By not telling him, they are setting you up for a LOT of drama after they die, and that's not fair to you. My grandfather was a GENEROUS man, but to make it easier on everyone, he gave the money to his 4 kids (which would be my DAD, not my mom). Hey guys So this story is about my family, im on mobile, son of an english major, and raised in America. YTA -For giving your mother anything. NTA - It is your inheritance and money and you are allowed to do what you want with it. AITA for not giving my mom my schedule. When he passed, my father and mother offered to buy them since they meant so much to my dad. And don't give them your money. Found the internet 8. The issue is that my grandmother wants about 30k from me and my sister. They were not married, only together for two years and despite her entitlement isn&39;t entitled to anything. You dont even need the money, youre just being spiteful because you dont like her. My dad was a junkie when I was born, and when I was three just picked up and left my mom and me. AITA for not giving half of my inheritance to my grandmother. Your father designated his beneficiaries because that is who he wanted to have those benefits when he died. For others, it lasts a lifetime. The problem basically solved itself, as he died long before she did, but she made it clear to everyone that if she went first, my inheritance was mine alone. In fact, one of the reasons to designate small bequests to your cousins, was so that none of them can challenge the will, saying they were forgotten. My dad's mom let me and my sister go - I haven't seen her in more than 20 years. When asked what money he will be giving to his son, my cousin, out of his portion of the 400,000, he said nothing, he will keep the. Cut her off and live your life. Keep it safe for purchasing home or wedding or for some emergency down the road. Hes nothing like my dad. Hes nothing like my dad. When did the social norms of inheritance go so crazy. And that is the answer in virtually every situation involving someone not giving part of an inheritance to another person who claims theyre entitled to it. I feel horrible now. 000,00 of the money I don&39;t even have yet so a little bit of a backstory I live in the Netherlands and here parents can receive benefits from the government like getting a certain amount of money for schooling and child care. She blew up at me calling me selfish for not giving her the money to fix her car and letting her walk around broke. The thing is that we don't want that for us or them. This means that any money in the account would come to me. My sister&39;s ex-husband, the father of all three of her children, was very tall (six foot and change), blonde, and blue eyed. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole I did not split my inheritance with my brothers 2. I said that she still hadnt paid the debt and I already given 1100 dollars to fix the car. I always spent time with him and so in great uncle&39;s will, he left me 10 million and his entire property (worth another 2-3 million). I feel like it will be an easier boundary to say that I&x27;m not giving her any of my own, actual money. He has known about his grandma leaving him. My father recently passed away and I received a small inheritance along with my sister. When he passed, my father and mother offered to buy them since they meant so much to my dad. Inherited 139K paid off all credit bills truck loan, bought bed for wife, Invisalign for son and took him on a trip to NYC for a week. ngl mom tried to blame dad for the divorce. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Background When I (24M) was a kid, a young window moved into the house next to us. Both my brother and I are well established in our careers. My aunts stopped crying and froze and An uncle of mine burst out laughing and patted me on the shoulder and. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole (1) i told my dad that i dont want to give up my room so my uncle and his mom can stay in it (2) i believe i might be the asshole because they are. I&39;ve lived half my life without my mom and would gladly give up the inheritance to have with us today. Okay, with that title i seem like a asshole, but here&39;s my story. Dont expect him to support your decision, and likewise, dont entertain his self-serving lies about what your mother would have wanted. Uncle Sam wants you to take some property off its hands. She and I have an agreement that if one of us is on the outs when the time. Most importantly, my mom had lied. This is what I'd. She was no contact with her family, and my parents kind of took her in. Others are telling me that I should practice equity over equality by giving part of the money to my biological son, because he needs to pay back his loans whereas my stepson does not have any debt. He earmarked it for you and your sister. She got her own stimulus but no unfortunately it was all cash deals and I dont think I can dig to see what I owe her but its maybe 600 if that but I was also like a child so at this point its kinda late to bring it up in. You are NTA. That was his prerogative. I was going to visit my mom down south, and she said her rumatiod. It wasnt much, but I would be able to pay all my student loans with the amount and have some left over. Its easy to be generous with other peoples money. By not telling him, they are setting you up for a LOT of drama after they die, and that's not fair to you. (English is not my first language so sorry in advance for all the mistakes) So yesterday we were eating (I 19, mom 46, dad 58, my two sisters 14 and 20) and we started talking about inheritance, they said they were going to leave the house in the name of my other two sisters, i was confused so I said 'what about me' their answers were that I was going to. AITA for Giving All My Inheritance to My Brother and None to My Sister. AITA for not giving up a house I inherited. They have no entitlement to the money or to even have knowledge of it. My friend has a history in her family of siblings tearing themselves apart over a small inheritance (a few thousand dollars, maybe up to 100,000 total once). Woman Stunned After Estranged Brother Demands She Use Inheritance Money To Help His Family. I always spent time with him and so in great uncle&39;s will, he left me 10 million and his entire property (worth another 2-3 million). My grandfather was a GENEROUS man, but to make it easier on everyone, he gave the money to his 4 kids (which would be my DAD, not my mom). My grandmother and grandfather always said that when they&39;d pass their hand build house would belong to me. AITA for taking back my nephews Christmas present and giving it to my son. My mom passed away about 2 years ago. My mother was their only child, and I their only grandchild, and they left their entire estate to me. Mom was in poor health for the past two years. I have not lost a child (my deepest, darkest fear), but I did lose my father when I was a child. Tanya is currently at home caring for her son. Because the dress was so important to me, I had a big plan to keep it safe from any damages. This means the only people left in his will are me, my mom, and 2 others. My father had a past of cheating on my mom, and ended up having another kid with someone else who he basically disowned. But if I'm your cousin and I see my uncle give his inheritance to the one person in the family who financially doesn't need it, yeah I'd be hurt. They helped my mom go back to school. So I&39;m 31F, my mom passed away when I was 4, she was 26, dad has never been in the picture, after my mom&39;s death, her twin brother, my uncle Jack became my legal guardian. Hard worker and dedicated. My mom didn't leave us cash, she left us properties (4 in total). My siblings and I all went in on a sapphire diamond ring for my mom. Either its my brothers inheritance, or its my inheritance and I gave it to him. I only provide what the have a right to, which is the same as my bio kid. If the last time your maternal grandparents altered their will was that recent and they specified that the inheritance would only go to their "legal grandchildren," it sounds like they fully intended to exclude your sister. Read this before contacting the mod team. My grandparents kept a few special ones, my uncle inherited them. (F21) Ive had a pretty shitty childhood. Other people who have been helping along with me have been my uncle and my grandma. To give a bit of context, my dad (58) died a month ago after 9 months fighting an awful cancer. He has been with my mum for 34 years being a loving husband and father. (English is not my first language so sorry in advance for all the mistakes) So yesterday we were eating (I 19, mom 46, dad 58, my two sisters 14 and 20) and we started talking about inheritance, they said they were going to leave the house in the name of my other two sisters, i was confused so I said &39;what about me&39; their answers were that I was going to have the properties of my godmother. They intentionally left her out financially, but she turned the tables on them one day. I also knew that my other aunt, cousin, my uncle and my uncles girlfriend were also coming over a family night. Your inheritance from your parent is yours and yours alone. my fiance at first said I deserved it and have the right to do whatever I wanted with it. AITA for not giving my mom my schedule. My mum and me are devastated. Don't be forced into giving them a share of your inheritance. My mom had something like 5 different little health and life. My uncle (59m) lives across the country, but mom lived in the same city as grandma, so she took the brunt of the demands for help. AITA for suggesting to my grandfather how to divide his inheritance. AITA for thinking I should inherit my late mothers house over my sister. I live with my mom and she owns the house. Which would be fine if you have a normal dad. The thing is that we don't want that for us or them. Eventually, my mom met my dad and got engaged and I guess by that point she was truly over Bob because she invited him, Jane, Amelia, and their son "Bob Jr" (28m) to the. My Aunty and uncle had a make up baby after being separated for 5 years. AITA for not giving my inheritance to any of my siblings rAmITheAsshole. When my uncle died my dad's brother went to a layer to try to contest the money going to his wife. Story 1AITA for taking my family to court over not getting inheritance moneyStory 2AITA for refusing to help my mom financially because she paid for all m. So, now I&39;m really conflicted. Eventually, my mom met my dad and got engaged and I guess by that point she was truly over Bob because she invited him, Jane, Amelia, and their son "Bob Jr" (28m) to the. AITA for not redistributing my inheritance equally between my cousins. My brother claims that he thought I was joking (even though I told him it was legally binding) and that I'm stealing his rightful inheritance. When my grandmother passed away, my Mom was the executor of her estate. I'm just going to be direct and quick. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. In her will she set aside 50,000 each for my sister Tanya (40f) and myself. AITA here TLDR After my father passed, my mom and my sister want me to give up part of the inheritance because my sister cared for my elderly parents. So my uncle decided to lie, tell my mom he had been promised. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. It is not "selfish" not to use it for the other children, on the contrary it is morally incumbent upon you NOT to. When asked what money he will be giving to his son, my cousin, out of his portion of the 400,000, he said nothing, he will keep the. The fact that they told your nephew YOUR inheritance would pay for his college is beyond entitled. Article by Emerald Pellot Wed, September 08, 2021 at 125134 PM EDT A 20-year-old man thought he was an only child until he learned he had a secret older sister. I don&39;t blame your bio parents for not understanding or knowing how governments fail children in care like yourself but obviously it&39;s easier to be angry at them then the whole concept of a terrible system. It wasnt much, but I would be able to pay all my student loans with the amount and have some left over. The siblings are not responsible for fixing any broken relationships nor for helping them out with money. My sister (27f) is a single mom of three (one with special needs). That's ridiculously irresponsible. He is leverage. Say Thank you dad for including me and your grandchildren in the will. Although lately the discourse has come to evolve to 'none of my hard earned money will go to your father's family', so possibly anything I would inherit from my. They had a 6 month court battle and the family friend settled on 75k and my mom would pay her legal. Also his plan for the car is reasonable. She blew up at me calling me selfish for not giving her the money to fix her car and letting her walk around broke. The final third to be divided between 6 niblings, accessible when they turn 18. My mom died 2 weeks ago, my sister didn&39;t care about my. After the grief of losing a loved one has worn off, you may be wondering whether yo. She called my uncle selfish, how this was about her and that he knew what he signed up for when raising someone else's kid. down-payment and carrying costs. My parents were not together at the time of his death. Your inheritance is yours and you can do what you want with it. When he came out, they practically shunned him but still kept inviting him to the family events so their image to the neighbors would stay intact. She remarried my stepdad who has a 19 yo son named "Chris". My (25f) dad passed when I was very young and my mom married my stepdad Lee when I was 5. Family drama can be overwhelming at times. Patrilineal societies are societies in which inheritance and royal succession trace through the father of the family. For the sake of writing after many deletes My(20M) bio-grandparents are my adoptive parents and I call them mom and dad, my bio-mom I call Eve(35) and bio-aunt Anna(32). Eventually, my mom met my dad and got engaged and I guess by that point she was truly over Bob because she invited him, Jane, Amelia, and their son "Bob Jr" (28m) to the. CowboyLaw 3 mo. AITA for not helping my sister get to our Uncle's funeral. Found the internet 8. My sister&39;s ex-husband, the father of all three of her children, was very tall (six foot and change), blonde, and blue eyed. She was no contact with her family, and my parents kind of took her in. My dad had talked to my mom, they had decided to help them with some repairs to their house and NOT give or loan them money, but dad died suddenly before talking to my uncle. My brothers were adopted by a foster family we didnt know in the area. You do believe the way they treat your siblings is unfair. AITA for not giving my mom 30,000 My dad died, and I inherited around 540k (half tied up in a 10-year cap 401k I don't want to cash for strategic purposes from losing significant market value since 2021 and it being taxable). And that is the answer in virtually every situation involving someone not giving part of an inheritance to another person who claims theyre entitled to it. My sister is very short, and has my father&39;s native american coloring (dusky skin, dark brown eyes, dark hair). UPDATE we all had a conversation together about it. Alright so i a 19 yo M who is working around 30-25 hours a week and after my fathers death my mother has started seeing other men and dating. If your father, step mom etc are guilting you this way, that is disgusting. If they tried to guilt me into it, somehow, then my potential beneficence would turn into a hard no. 2M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. Hi OP, I&39;m so sorry you&39;re going through this. A few days ago, I contacted her and asked if she would be willing to split the inheritance money with her sisters, and she said no. So my uncle got a lawyer and for a year made my moms life hell. Sadly, you should let your cousin go if hes just there for the paycheck and not working. I sought out my uncle 6 years ago and he is the kindest, sweetest, most generous man Ive ever met. My (25f) dad passed when I was very young and my mom married my stepdad Lee when I was 5. down-payment and carrying costs. This is when the inheritance issue resurfaced because he really did disinherit my aunt, cousin, and that entire family. 10,000 is what he provided for her and she should be very grateful for it, as well as your generosity. (I am so sorry. My mom (his other daughter) took care of him and because of his advanced age, is working with his attorney to put things in order. Article by Emerald Pellot Wed, September 08, 2021 at 125134 PM EDT A 20-year-old man thought he was an only child until he learned he had a secret older sister. Im heading there now but really think that my dad and brother have no ground to stand on. When it comes to your siblings though, perhaps set them up with a trust fund they can use for school or can access when theyre 21 and help them start their life or offer to pay for school when the time comes. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole I should be judged on my decision to not give my Aunt any money from the 70k trust. A friend however suggested I was an AH for dealing with my mothers grief and my dads inheritance wishes this way. A man said in a now-viral post that he doesn&39;t want to share his inheritance with his sister after years of estrangement. Its a good life, but once you factor in taxes, mortgage, living expenses, its NOT support my whole family in luxury money. At this point if they dont stop harassing you, you should evict them and rent the house out at market value. That was his prerogative. My mom never told me about the money. My mom kept me from him. The only thing we never received was acceptance from Lees familythey were not pleased that Lee chose to marry a widow. 64 votes, 98 comments. When asked what money he will be giving to his son, my cousin, out of his portion of the 400,000, he said nothing, he will keep the. Your half-brother saying he wants to "share his inheritance", his dad was supposed to be your dad to, but he abandoned you. Donating to charity is a lovely idea. The fact that they told your nephew YOUR inheritance would pay for his college is beyond entitled. My father recently passed away and I received a small inheritance along with my sister. ETA 2 Again since someone asked. He made the mistake of trusting my dad to do the right thing; the will was written like "give to my dad until I graduate college, then he gives me. 8M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. This is one of those AITA posts that really made me think for a long time. craigs lists, slayeas telegram
So my (22f) cousin Becky (22f) got engaged over New Years. . Aita for not giving my mom and uncle my inheritance
My cousin Laura passed last year, which was devastating for our whole family. level 1. By sharing your inheritance with these two, you are basically enabling their strong sense of entitlement. So I&39;m 31F, my mom passed away when I was 4, she was 26, dad has never been in the picture, after my mom&39;s death, her twin brother, my uncle Jack became my legal guardian. In her will she set aside 50,000 each for my sister Tanya (40f) and myself. I (f 29) was raised in a Christian household. My biggest struggle is my neice and nephew. The woman's parents constantly funded her brother's lavish lifestyle and kept him in top priority. After classes my uncle invited me over to give me money and told me it was solely for me because my father started working again (had something like a stroke) and my family was equipped enough for some time. So, no, shes not cutting my uncle out of the will, but neither is she changing it; she must really think that I will feel pity for my uncle and will cede my rights in his favour. My mom didn't leave us cash, she left us properties (4 in total). My Aunty and uncle had a make up baby after being separated for 5 years. And although my husband and I have struggled financially for over 20 years, and even had to move in with my mom temporarily a few years ago, I always tell her May you live long enough to spend it all. I was his primary caregiver during his illness, and ended up quitting my own job to take care of him full time for the last 10 months of his life aprox. So my uncle decided to lie, tell my mom he had been. My sister (39) and I each inherited a small fortune when our mom passed away 21 years ago. Posting to Reddit&39;s "Am I The Ahole" (AITA) forum under the username u. Set up trusts for your children with explicit instructions on who controls the trusts and how they may control them. I never met either of them and I don't really have anything from either one of them. So my uncle got a lawyer and for a year made my moms life hell. He passed away a few weeks ago. I also knew that my other aunt, cousin, my uncle and my uncles girlfriend were also coming over a family night. User account menu. It means that when the parents disown a child completely that child may never see a cent. You have the right to set the boundaries of your body and mental health. If they cant afford their lifestyle, they dont get to ask for handouts. I refused as I thought it made no sense, I rarely heard of a child giving his inheritance to the remaining parent, even less when we had so little growing up and I still am having a hard time trying to make a decent living. I&39;m an only child. She split the estate in half. However one of the only things passed down was drum making and one OLD grand drum, the full process was taught to them by my grandfather hunting the deer, preparing the hide, the first. I told them it was absurd, and it wasn&x27;t my fault that he wasted his part of the inheritance. Which really, thats all this amounts to a good job. Inheriting money is never the way you want to come into wealth. He calls other sister and convinces her that we're crazy, money hungry, and making things up. (Note my mom did not care about the inheritance at all and never asked for money for herself. Frank Lampard and Harry Redknapp are related through marriage; Lampards mother and Redknapps wife are sisters. Ever since I turned 15, father's day is about my uncle for me, my cousin and I make him breakfast and plan a fun day with him with a small gift, now that I'm 18, my step-mom sent me a fb message saying that I'm old enough to give my part for my bio-dad's gift, this year, his step-kids wants to give him a car and that I should put 10 (like. Your father should never asked you to stand in the middle. The 8mil is now considered part of YOUR estate, not your grandfathers. This is when the inheritance issue resurfaced because he really did disinherit my aunt, cousin, and that entire family. There is one piece of land that my dads owns that is for me (20f) to. I did it once. All because of his chronic health condition that eventually got worse in the last 8 months. My mom got around 100k from the inheritance. So my mom just asked to give it to charity as our lives won't change with the 8 grand we would receive compared to the houses plots of land my uncle was receiving. down-payment and carrying costs. AITA for not sharing my inheritance and belongings with my family. In many US states, even money inherited during a marriage is unlikely to be considered to be marital assets (and part of the assets split by divorce) as long as it was never commingled with marital assets. You're an angel, and I completely agree with your advice. The money your mother spent before she died is not your inheritance. YTA -For giving your mother anything. When it comes to your siblings though, perhaps set them up with a trust fund they can use for school or can access when theyre 21 and help them start their life or offer to pay for school when the time comes. Parents Disowned Daughter Years Ago, Now Demands She Give Her Inheritance to Her Brother. AITA for not wanting to split my mom&x27;s portion of her inheritance, 400,000 (now my portion due to her dth) with my uncle&x27;s son, my cousin" Check out what Reddit users had to say. AITA for not wanting to split my mom&x27;s portion of her inheritance, 400,000 (now my portion due to her dth) with my uncle&x27;s son, my cousin" Check out what Reddit users had to say. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to. The excuse of not having supportive parents ended a long time ago. My sister and cousins would get the sale of her rental home and with it get our existing student loans paid off and then any money remaining would be split evenly between us. down-payment and carrying costs. AITA For Not Giving My Sister Who&x27;s A Single Mom My Share Of Inheritance. Its reasonable for your mom to want to help her uncle who helped out financially and by changing a few diapers. The son of a niece is called a great-nephew. Spouses, children and dependents yes -- grandchildren, nope. They told me that I would be receiving most of their inheritance and camp. He earmarked it for you and your sister. He didnt have to do this. Although lately the discourse has come to evolve to 'none of my hard earned money will go to your father's family', so possibly anything I would inherit from my. AITA for not sharing my inheritance and belongings with my family. He is giving his uncles car to his uncles nephew. My mom wanted my 500 dollars (C0v1d RELIEF) I said no and according to her I showed my true colors. Read this before contacting the mod team. Eventually, my mom met my dad and got engaged and I guess by that point she was truly over Bob because she invited him, Jane, Amelia, and their son "Bob Jr" (28m) to the. A few days ago, I contacted her and asked if she would be willing to split the inheritance money with her sisters, and she said no. My (25F) dad (51M) recently remarried after my mom passed away a few years ago. I only provide what the have a right to, which is the same as my bio kid. I inherited my uncle&39;s beautiful Steinway grand piano when he passed away over a decade ago. My SIL is a SAHM, so he was the breadwinner. My brother and I each got over 100,000. AITA for suggesting to my grandfather how to divide his inheritance. That money was left to you and I guarantee your father did NOT want anything to go to your mother. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Its a gesture that is meant to be a comfort andor a show of affection. Hey everyone I (55F) just lost my mother at the end of last year. So, my mom let me get anything under 25 to Easter, given it's on Amazon. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. I&39;m an only child. Don't exhaust yourself because your dad and Jan are selfish and manipulative and poorly planned for the twins educational future. When they say theyve done nothing or given you or your father anything then tell them thats exactly that your not entitled to my inheritance from my father. My uncle had 3 kids. If your father, step mom etc are guilting you this way, that is disgusting. Give your daughter the money and let her pay of her student debt that she definitely has because of you. It might make me the asshole because My grandma was also her mom, and I might be being selfish by not giving her any of the money from the trust. OP&39;s step-dad and OP&39;s Mom got married when both girls were 6-7. She didn't "choose" to no longer be your mother's daughter. Don&39;t do this. NTA its your money to do with as you see fit. My siblings and I all went in on a sapphire diamond ring for my mom. John said that his mom's husband wanted nothing to do with him since he wasn't sure if he was the father and abandoned him. Your mom probably should have been more careful with the money she was going to give you (let a call it that instead of inheritance since shes giving it to you while alive, and thats more your mother giving you money, which in turn wouldnt be available for you when she dies as a proper inheritance. Also, sue the estate for all the child support and alimony he HAD to pay but didn&x27;t pay to your mom and you, and which should now, after her passing, be rightfully yours. My uncle recently passed away,. Moms appreciate bir. Which involves giving her her fair share. It finally got to the point to where mom convinced uncle to buy both her part and my aunt&39;s part of the house. I can be firm and ask my sister to leave and tell her to get her shit together but I know that will mean couch surfing and living out of motels for my neice and nephew (now 12 and 13) and knowing that would be my fault is heartwrenching. Happened multiple times of close siblings fighting and suing for every penny once someone died. Although in 3 names, with only 1 paying property taxes, legally they MAY have been able to claim full ownership of the property as they were the only one paying. Your dad, step mom, step sister etc, have nothing to do with this. My sister and cousins would get the sale of her rental home and with it get our existing student loans paid off and then any money remaining would be split evenly between us. Giving more than 15K a year to an individual, your brother, sister, father or mother will trigger tax consequences. Your father and your grandparents however are TA. They intentionally left her out financially, but she turned the tables on them one day. So my uncle decided to lie, tell my mom he had been promised. AITA for not giving kids money I inherited. So my uncle got a lawyer and for a year made my moms life hell. So, now I&39;m really conflicted. They shouldnt be relying on a 25 year old to give them hand outs. In fact, it would be a bad idea to give it to your grandmother. On the contrary, its honoring her legacy, and doing so in a beautiful way. At the time the trust was made and at the time of GGs passing my littler sister 14F did not exist. I'm just going to be direct and quick. She split each of her siblings&39; portions between their kids. Do not play with your future for the sake of helping your brother, he spent his fair share of the money on bad decisions, thats on him. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best in life. Luckily, I still have my uncle and aunt. AITA for not sharing my inheritance and belongings with my family. I said no. Welcome to rAmITheAsshole. admin November 23, 2022 Uncategorized. My dad's mom let me and my sister go - I haven't seen her in more than 20 years. I do not want my dad to get back together with my mom, he's. . camp rokon